For the Girls
Featuring Jane Porter
I love writing for women. Frankly, Iím amazed by women. Of course
Iím biased, but I think women are the cooler gender. I also think
weíre the most confused, but thatís probably because Madison Avenue
ad folks have figured out how to get to our headsójust tell us weíre
not good enough. Convince us we need to be fixed. Sell us products
with which to repair our damaged selves. And keep fixing our
Thatís where I start frothing at the mouth. And thatís when I pull
out my soap box and begin to beat my chest Tarzan-style.
We women are cool. And weíre not messed up. We have just been sold
a bunch of BS for a couple hundred years and I see my jobóas well as
my choice of subject matteróas a chance to reveal truth. My stories
give me a chance to sound my voice, to peel away the layer of lies,
to rake out the BS, and to poke fun at our fragile sense of self.
We women are wonderful and weíre definitely good enough.
I wasnít always so compassionate. I grew up rather hard on women,
but thatís because I was brutal with myself. I couldnít make
mistakes. I couldnít fail. I couldnít bear to think I was
flawedóand yet, God help me, I am one of the most flawed women in
the universe. Iím intense and passionate, prickly, emotional,
ambitious. And once I hit my late thirties, I thoughtócool. Iím
prickly, passionate Jane, and Iím going to start enjoying what I do
well, and not worry about what I donít do so well, and just be happy
with me. The miracle was that by finally accepting me, I could
accept everyone else.
Now Iím a bit of an evangelist. Through my writing I preach more
love, more laughter, more happiness in my books. I really want
women to like themselves, to enjoy their lives, to savor their
gifts, to forgive their weaknesses. We donít have to be perfect.
We just have to live fulfilling, interesting lives.
We donít have to be hard on other women. And we definitely donít
have to be so hard on ourselves. Compassion goes a long way, and
itís amazing what it can do for oneís creativity. So the next time
you sit down to write, the next time you find yourself hitting a
wall, or feeling frustration with your work, give yourself some TLC,
remind yourself that creativity is demanding, and writing isnít
easy, and youíre doing something few people can do. We donít have
to be tortured to produce great work. We just have to like
Jane Porterís July 2006 release, Flirting With Forty (5 Spot), was
picked by Redbook Magazine as its Red Hot Summer Read before being
optioned as a Lifetime Christmas 2008 TV movie. Jane's newest novel,
Mrs. Perfect, (May 2008, 5 Spot) has also received tremendous
acclaim from her readers. www.janeporter.com